What is ffk?
Define ffk in a good understanding sentences...
(to those who don't know what is ffk, i will explain as below... ffk = fong fei gei)
of course...for what i know, ffk is well defined by, a person that promised to come or attend some gathering or date at a specific place and a specific time but do not really show up at the right time and right place as decided and confirmed... (do correct me if u guys have a better definition on this)
FFK, in what situation someone will be said having this kind of behaviour??
Besides of fulfilling every elements that i define as above?
Yes, in some situation, your frenz will say that u like to ffk and whatever..
In the sense that they think that you cannot make it when promise them already..
Meanwhile you have some reasonable stuff to speak out.. and yet inform them about this...at that time, you may not considered as ffk...
So, that means?
Ok, let say, you promised to someone that you will gonna go for that gathering..
All the needed information is confirmed such as date, time and location..
but at last you did not show up your face at that specific time and location, then you will be said that you are ffk....even though you tell that you are not free at that time on last minute..
YES, this is true...
If something like this happened...that people really is ffk la..
But, that's different if you do have some acceptable and forgivable reason to support you and you do tell them earlier you can't go if and only if...
You have a presentation on tomorrow morning which is important and will affect your final mark in exam, but only you get to know the date to do presentation after you promised to go for gathering....
You have some projects or assignments to rush on and the due date is closer, you just helps your group members ....
You just get sick or not feeling well at that time...
You just know that your relative just pass away and so on...
but make sure you are honest and telling the truth....
And, plz make 1 thing clear at here...
If someone want to invite you to attend a gathering or yumcha and so on..
plz make sure the time and location...
If not, there will have some issues later...
Another situation is like this,
let say, your friend ask you to go yumcha on the next week..perhaps just inform the date and time or just the location only...which means you do not know all the needed information, but u already confirmed that you will go...
At here, u will considered ffk only if u can't make it when your friend inform you about the time and location with you earlier...since you promised. This means, today, your friend invited u to go yumcha which held on next week without the actual time or location, just the date only which means next wednesday...then when it comes to next week before wednesday, your friend inform u the time and location...or just on the day before the time they decide...then only you will be considered as ffk if you didn't go...for instance, your friend want yumcha at 10pm at somewhere and inform you at 9.30pm, your friend is ok here because they informed earlier b4 the actual yumcha time...(here just ignore the issue of your frenz just look like inform you last minute)
But, the case is different when they did not confirm you any time OR location..
Such as they say next Wednesday but did not inform you what time and where...
Or they tell you the time and date without specific yumcha at where..
Or tell you yumcha at somewhere but did not tell you what time..
So you are not considered ffk if,
they didn't even inform u where and when...
they didn't tell u the location..
they didn't tell u the time....
OR
they informed you late such that they inform you to yumcha at 10pm on wed and u wait till 10.30pm only u get informed to go where to yumcha....
u can choose not to go.....
AND you r NOT FFK!!!~
because they late to inform u.....
OR
they held a gathering at somewhere else but not yet confirm the time..
and till late at night around 10.30pm, then only informed to yumcha at this time..although you know will yumcha on that day... but last minutes inform people is not a good behavior, right?
preliminary planning and time management is better...
if both of the important information also not yet decide and inform u...
if late + no location... even worst, aren't it?
Then, if u choose not to go and say sorry yet still get blaming by people, and say u ffk...
should be speechless already...
because it is not a correct way of doing things right, is it correct?
and it should not end with blaming with each others if u still care with the friendship...
Properly a well-thinking people should understand more, perhaps..
So, when do anything on next time, please make sure to prepare everything before start to do it..
the result will totally different....
Every thing will have exception..even though is just gathering...
if u do read or have any idea on law before...for sure u will know about this right?
and, if u understand that people better, this won't happened...
or the person who always say people ffk, do you ever try to analyse the problem?
is it ur problem of helding an gathering, perhaps?
all of this have to redirect back to you...
different people got different perception, or different 'level' of thinking..
it's not a matter of attitude...it's a matter of Principe...
P/s: don't ever promise to somebody that ask for your confirmation on some date or gathering which do not have a clear thought on the meaning of the "ffk" as i have justify and define above.